Golden Nuggets of Advice

Here are some of the pieces of advice I received from my discipler, Victor Gonzalez Sr, while under his leadership in the City of Angels International Christian Church:

While dating my future wife, who came to the US as an adult non-English speaker: Don't let her learn English, so you can control her better. (For the record, I have helped and encouraged her to learn and improve her English, which is now very good).
Don't let my wife learn to drive. Don't let her get a driver's license. Don't let her drive. All for the same reason of control. (For the record, I have helped and encouraged my wife through the process of applying for and getting her license, and improving her driving skills, and buying her her own car.)

Lie in a business transaction. (I didn't.)

Ruthlessly pursue payments from a client, another member of the church, who had cancelled my professional services but not given me formal notice. (I followed this advice against my better judgement, and severely damaged a relationship and my conscience in the process.)

Many times, do things to antagonize other people that Victor did not like. (Victor did not like pretty much anybody -- he had a devastating criticism for every single person I knew of, including every member of his family.)

Make plans to follow him in case the time came to split off from Kip McKean's leadership. (This one was almost blasphemous in the context of idol-worship that we were all involved in with Kip.)

"Let me borrow some money. I pay you back this Friday!" "Something come up, I'll pay you next time." "Something come up again, can I borrow some more? I pay you back next Friday for sure."

And so many more....